Steps

My therapist asked me to list the steps in the process to becoming a woman and set a deadline for the first item. Some of these are ongoing (like practicing my fem voice) and I've listed where I currently am.

• Coming out to some friends.
• Coming out to my mom (I came out as bi and genderqueer, not transgender (because I'm still figuring it out)).
• Dressing more androgynously (adding fem articles of clothing into the mix, wearing some makeup sometimes).
• I am currently here.
• Adding to my clothes, jewelry, accessories, etc as needed.
• Driving around town as a woman.
• Going through a drive-thru as a woman.
• Getting better at putting on makeup.
• Better at my fem voice.
• Hair extensions or growing my hair out.
• Going out to dinner as a woman.
• Going out during the daytime as a woman.
• Spending a weekend living full time as a woman.
• Going to the beach.
• Spending a week or longer living full time as a woman.
• Talking to my ex-wife about how the kids might deal with this.
• Coming out to my kids.
• Coming out to everyone in my personal life.
• Changing my gender and name on Facebook.
• Coming out to the business world.
• Changing my twitter handle.
• Living full time as a woman.
• Electrolysis.
• Facial feminization surgeries.
• Bottom surgery (I'm not sure I would ever do this).

So the next step for me is driving around town as a woman. I will set a deadline of February 1st.

Hugs and kisses,

Stephanie